THE
DEMAS SYNDROME
I
SHARE the preoccupation of Mrs Major M. Lloyd on the subject of officers who
resign (January 1991). The problem surfaces from time to time, searching for a
solution.
It
is sadly true that when officers leave the ranks, they disappear from their
comrades' view: we learn of their resignation (at least in this territory) only
by rumour, or sometimes a note from THQ, and we don't even know their address.
At the moment of leaving they are deeply wounded, often bitter and at times
unfair in their judgments, preferring to cut off any connections with the Army.
That is not to say that they disappear from our thoughts and prayers, or that
we withdraw our friendship.
To
consider them 'failures' would be to pronounce a daring, even incorrect
judgment. Some of them may quite sincerely have been mistaken in their calling.
(Several in this territory have served faithfully in other denominations. They
were probably not destined to be officers.)
In
our officership, we pass through critical phases which make us want to stop,
take stock and get our breath. These may be caused by overwork or nervous
tension. It is regrettable if an officer then sees resignation as the only
solution. This suggestion of the Adversary must be repulsed and some means
found to reorganise life and work, in certain countries such as France it is
possible to obtain a few weeks' break through the Social Security system, to
regain general equilibrium.
Critical
periods can also be caused by disagreements about our work or doctrinal
queries. To have no other option than resignation is discouraging.
The
regulations make provision for leave of absence for specified family reasons
only, If this could be extended to include officers who honestly and sincerely
are going through a difficult period, they would no longer feel 'prisoners' of
their officership. It would also enable than to discuss their situation with
their superiors with the opportunity of clearing up any misunderstanding. Even
so, some resignations will be inevitable.*
In
my 38 years of service I never considered resigning, because of my
strong
sense of vocation. Several times. though. there was inner unrest, and once,
after more than 25 years of service, a situation arose which made me want to
distance myself momentarily from the Army (the six weeks' extended furlough did
not exist then).
Later
I recognised it as a weakening of my consecration and obedience. It was a time
of great turmoil, until one day I happened to read the following lines which
made me continue on the path of service:
Your
days are not your own
To
spend just as you please.
Your
days are meant for more
Than
comfort, fun and ease.
For
you were shaped to spend each day
In
helping others on their way.
When
a cadet in training I had been very impressed by the story of Abraham fighting
the birds of prey which attacked the sacrifice he had placed on the altar.
Bravely 'he drove them away'. We too have to watch over our offering to God. It
is an old story but it is always applicable.
SUZANNE
BARBELL, Lieut-Colonel (R),
France
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