Some of us simply ignore all that happened and hope it will go away. Some use it to launch into another ministry and really shake the forts of darkness, within the Army or within another church and we are proud of their efforts. Some become bitter and twisted and express their pain in different ways, all too often in attacking the Army and the ‘they’ who are supposed to run the show. There are those who become, dare I say it ‘Holier than ...’ and seem to have a scriptural answer to everything that the Army does and believes and causes some of us to question how we could have been so misguided to respond to a heavenly call to such a movement. And there are those who will simply sit on the side lines and let their unfulfilled expectations spoil what they are currently involved in, constantly thinking about ‘what could have been.....’. And there are those who use it to become giants in their community because of who they are and credit where they have come from.Over recent years I have become a fan of networking. I have always been keen of what I sometimes call ‘coffee shop counselling’, where people meet in a non threatening atmosphere to simply chat about things. Not always to have a defined outcome but just to communicate with someone with whom we have a connection with.
I love coffee shops and have been accused of being addicted to coffee, but I am blessed with very poor taste buds and I struggle to be able to tell what good coffee is and what is not, but for me the coffee is not what is significant about coffee shops. Over recent years I have been to networking breakfasts, after work events that drift of into the night, at all sorts of venues and with all sorts of people; however it was only recently that someone talked about networking 101, the basics, and it was quite revolutionary for me. I found that there were principles that spanned networking, customer service in all sorts of organisations, selling and many more. What surprised me was that it was remarkably similar to what I had been involved in for so many years under the red epaulettes. Networking should not be an exercise where you give out your ubiquitous business card so someone can give you contacts that you can profit from but it is about collecting business cards and asking about what you can do for other people, it is about being genuinely interested in what others are doing and possibly how you can be of help. Jeffrey Gitomer, (www.gitomer.com), says “Take a genuine interest in other people before you ask them to take a genuine interest in you”. Is this revolutionary or does it simply echo the mythical Christmas cable that Bill Booth sent to his officers around the world in the most economical, read cheapest, manner that simply said ‘Others’.It strikes me that there are times when we feel a pain that no one; fellow Officers, Divisional Commanders, the ‘They from HQ’; really understand or care about our situation, when really it may be that this could be the result of our not taking a significant interest in them (others). It sounds like such a simple act but I am convinced that the more interest and care we have for others will be responded to in like kind. Over the years I have decided that most jobs can be done by robots, even in our ‘former lives’ a lot of the stuff was mechanical, but dealing with people was our most challenging and rewarding activity. Jeffrey Gitomer also echo’s what many people have said that ‘people do business with people they like’, and maybe we need to have a ‘likable people meter’ hanging round our neck.
Our pain is real and it affects all of us in some way or other, but the significant event is not what has happened to us, but how we respond to what has happened. It is more blessed to give than to receive, I have been told, and so let us give all of ourselves to ‘others’ and leave what comes back to a higher power that can do ‘....exceedingly abundantly more than we can ever ask for.....’
But maybe we have to take the first step in coping with our pain?
"Fletch"Peter Fletcher
Former
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