
Honesty/Introspection- Interestingly enough it was when another Former told me about this website that I (www.FSAOF.blogspot.com) began to clear my mind and look at our situation through the eyes of others who share the same journey. As I read of similar experiences I was able to step back and start to name the things I was responsible for creating. I could see how much my pain, anger, and frustration would feed on themselves. The blame did nothing more than delay the incredible healing that awaited me. Others who were hurt much worse could move beyond the pain and accept the goodness and grace of their Heavenly Father. This needed to become my testimony.
Acceptance- While there was an intellectual and spiritual acceptance of the new path God had chosen, my emotions were not in sync. SA officership had come to define me in many ways. There is an immediate acceptance of the “major” in every community. While not always the best emotion, I was comfortable being an officer, and I realized much of that was gone. I had to accept this mid-course correction, accept the severing of many relationships, and accept responsibility for the hurt I caused to family and friends still faithfully serving. As hard as it was, I had to accept the fact that I was no longer an officer. This acceptance began the process of knowing that I was ok. Now there is a new course, with new challenges and new victories. I would begin to embrace the understanding that the God who called me, loves, accepts and approves of Jeffery Todd Bassett with or without a rank.
Growth- I have such a long way to go. My feet are still made of clay, I still don’t trust as much as He deserves, and I still fail on too many occasions. But through it all I can honestly say I am not the man I was two years ago when I left SA officership. I am learning that my growth, my health, my faith, and my fears are not the responsibility of any organization, not even The Salvation Army. I am finding renewed confidence in and dependence on the One who alone can be trusted.
Healing- Because I was trying to be obedient and to know what God’s plans were, I left under the assumption that by following Him healing would be instant. The past 2 years have allowed me to see that God’s love and mercies are new every day. For me this means that He lovingly and purposefully begins to scrape away all of the garbage and pain from my past. I have found that healing is mostly subjective. My tolerance for pain may be less or more than yours. The time it takes for me to heal can take more or less time than for you to heal from the exact same hurt. I believe God wants every one of us to know His healing power. I am grateful for the process and this forum that has contributed to my journey. It has been therapeutic to name the stages, knowing that they have led to the place where I am today.

1. Don’t skip any stages in your journey; you will have to address them eventually.
2. Don’t stay in any part of the journey beyond your appointed time; God wants to keep you moving forward.
3. Finally, don’t judge anyone; instead encourage those still struggling along in their journey!
I am finding that it gets better every day☺
Jeffery T. Bassett
Former
USA East

Living Water Church Ministries
Wall, NJ
pastor@livingwaterchurchministries.org
4 comments:
Jeff thank you so much, you have helped me to look at things in a new perspective.
I have felt for the last few months that I have been going round and round in circles, trying to make sense of all that has happened.
I have wanted to.....
push the blame somewhere?
know I belong?
serve?
fulfill the void that exists within my broken world?
How do I do this? I have to simply accept what has happened and the part I have played in this.
Yes, I need to start moving on and to forget what is past and not allow it to ruin what is ahead. I need to learn from the past as it is part of who I am today.
My life has been turned upside down but now I want to move forward with renewed hope remembering those words from Romans.
"All things work together for good,for them who are called according to his purpose".
I need to fulfill God's purpose in what I am doing right now. To share the love of God to those who I meet and who I serve.
I can make a difference in the lives of others but not as a Salvation Army Officer!!
Former
UKT
Thanks, Jeff. "I am learning that my growth, my health, my faith, and my fears are not the responsibility of any organization, not even The Salvation Army." Active, former, retired, soldier - this is such a valuable insight.
JoAnn
active, US East
Jeff,
Thanks for putting into words what I have felt a very long time. Officers are often too dependent upon the organization. I think at times it is a two way street and that the Army produces that mode. This is very unfortunate and not a healthy lifestyle. This lifestyle produces other issues.
I had to remind myself years ago that the Army was not God but a system by which God can bring blessing and comfort if the proper attitude and godly and caring leaders were available.
My growth and life and (personal choices) are mine to grow and glorify the Lord.
After many years of service I have no regret at leaving. I am free. I miss some people but God places new people and new challenges before me.
Almost like moving to a new appointment...I had to throw that in!
Be blessed in Christ!
USA East former
Great stuff Jeff
While each of us has different stages that we go through and it is difficult to be generally prescriptive to cover everyone, you have given an amazing insight into what has worked for you.
I am encouraged that this will possibly be the start for many of a new look at that BHAG of living in the NOW and all the excitement that it can hold for us. 'Formers' have so much potential that it can be quite scary, however we need to be careful that we don't make it too attractive so that it becomes a new fashion.
Keep up the good work.
Cheers
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