CONCLUSION
FEELINGS
OF INADEQUACY AND TRAINING
A poll was conducted among SSO spouses living in six territories.
The respondents included former officers, SA soldiers, those committed to
another denomination, new Christians and a very few professing ‘no faith’.
The purpose of the survey was simply to
determine if the non-officers were familiar with SA history, mission, policy,
the ‘call’ to ministry, etc.
I believe I have received sufficient training
in the following areas and have a good knowledge of:
SA
MISSION
|
27%
|
SA
THEOLOGY
|
24%
|
SA
HISTORY
|
28%
|
SA
OFFICERSHIP
|
28%
|
SUPPORTING my OFFICER SPOUSE
|
0%
|
LITTLE
TO NONE OF THE ABOVE
|
71%
|
‘My
knowledge of the above subjects has come exclusively from what my
officer-spouse has shared, not from any SA directed training: 28%.’
Can it be all that difficult to
demonstrate to the non-officer spouse to be what their assumed role represents
and to initiate a training program to achieve that goal? And, to convince them
that their general attitude should be seeing themselves as 'servant-helpers' -
their primary assistance being; to anticipate, meet and support the needs of
their officer-spouse.
A voluntary introduction course (distance
learning) including a clearly defined and expected role of the non-officer spouse
would have circumvented and eliminated many of the difficulties and
controversies experienced. This should be offered to all interested SSO
couples. In addition the elusive brochure should be examined and, if needed,
updated.
Further a ‘continuing education’ program
that would meet the specific needs of a non-officer spouse ranked high among
the recommendations, with 89 percent affirming this.
On my visit to the Training College, London, several spouses of
Cadets in training, those who will soon be my colleagues, sought me out to
share various concerns; I sensed they simply needed to vent. I learned, to my
great surprise, that they aren’t allowed to worship with their cadet spouse and
the student body in the Sunday Morning services at the College. Nor are they
included in the Spiritual Day programs. These ‘policies’ differ from those in some
other territories where the SSO provision is in place.
Officers and their marriages (and
families) will be under constant scrutiny once in the field, and the health of
their marriages is an important part of their credibility in spiritual
leadership. Worshiping as a couple, or as a family, with other likeminded
called and committed Salvationists (Christians) is absolutely essential.
As in any training program, couples learn
and benefit from sharing their own knowledge and spiritual experiences as much
as they do from the material taught by the trainers/facilitators. The
non-officer is often isolated from SA procedures and programming and the
training becomes a vital forum for sharing experiences, learning from each
other, and reinforcing each other. The spiritual side of the non-officer is
absolutely critical if the officer-spouse is to become effective. It is an
essential part of everything that the officer-spouse hopes to accomplish.
The nurturing of pastoral family
relationships is not a diversion from the work of ministry, a sort of necessary
evil; it is fundamental. Unless the SSO couple are in harmony, the
officer-spouse will soon become discouraged, and the effectiveness of the
ministry will decline or cease.
There will never be a better opportunity
to bring these non-officer spouses to be, into an understanding of their Cadet
spouse’s ‘calling’ and life-long commitment to serve, than while living in
community at the Training College.
And, how difficult would it be to
establish a ‘discussion group’, geared to the non-officer to be, to include SA
history, theology and SA mission in the mix, perhaps led by a select group of
cadets, officers and staff from the Heritage Center?
The policy on where the SSO couple will
reside needs immediate action. One can only imagine if 5-10% of the UKT officer
pool became entrenched in mortgage obligations and refused their ‘marching
orders’.
The expectation was when signing the
non-officer contract that: “the non-officer spouse will possess a thorough
understanding of The Salvation Army, its mission and values and its officer
appointment system.” Has this
requirement been adhered to?
A comment heard from a non-officer spouse
recently was: “I really have trouble relating to a concept until I can tie it
to something I fully comprehend”.
Other non-officer spouses (SS0) I’ve
spoken with see their spouses’ calling and vocation as the officer's own, and
do not consider themselves a specific part of his/her ministry, although they’d
like to, at the very least, ‘appear supportive'.
In communicating with SSO non-officer
spouses the expectations and provisions do not appear to have been
satisfactorily explained or reviewed regularly. In fact the SSO provision was
scrapped in NZ last year due a number of unexpected controversial issues, and
only one SSO couple remain serving in that territory.
There has never been nor is there is
currently an educational training curricula for becoming a non-officer spouse.
Incongruous as it may seem, one simply completes and signs a short contract and
seeks the approval of the Divisional Commander. However, because of the nature
of the officer’s role, the non-officer spouse is involved in the ‘work’—trained
or not, wishing to or not. There is no standard measure of expectation, success
or failure.
ORDINATION
With the introduction of the word
ordination to its commissioning of new officers in 1978 came the contention
that officers are the equivalent of clergy in every respect, possessing and
elevating them to a status that sets them apart from their soldiers and also
their non-officer spouse.
The nature of officership as a spiritual
covenant rather than a contract with The Salvation Army must be understood and
affirmed by the non-officer spouse. However, does the connotation ‘ordained’
cause even greater confusion and possible enmity between the non-officer and SA
persons? Will the non-officer be seen as irrelevant to the officer-spouses’
role, particularly if they are not sufficiently trained for their own unique
contribution?
Traditionally the commanding Officers are
the primary leadership team of SA corps; churches. They are both the
spiritual leaders and the backbone of the leadership and other teams within the
corps. They are responsible for the effectiveness of every form of ministry.
They have the difficult task of leading and motivating a wide variety of local
officers and other volunteer leaders. They set the vision and direction and are
charged directly or indirectly to energize the staff, soldiers and adherents
and recruits and to impact their communities through their spiritual gifts and
leadership skills.
SA Officers are well trained in theology,
administration, social work and other necessary skills, but yet feel inadequate
in certain areas. And it’s in those areas where the spouse, once sufficiently
trained, will apply their unique gifts.
Officers attend a variety of management
and leadership seminars or do extensive independent reading and
self-study. Most non-officer spouses are ill equipped in the areas
management and leadership. And without training it cannot be assumed that all
non-officers can move forward with the same sense of confidence and
effectiveness. They may be called and empowered by God, but are constantly
challenged by the lack of necessary training and educational support.
Isn’t it a ‘given’, using today’s
contemporary business vernacular, to include the non-officer in such training
whenever possible? Or at the very least, if mixing the two servant roles is
problematic, might separate training sessions or retreats not be conducted to
dramatically increase the non-officers’ contributions and effectiveness as the
CO’s assistant?
Surely they can lend assistance in order
to balance issues and deal with the very problems married SA officer couples
face on a daily basis. This will also develop stronger marriages through
greater emotional intelligence and understanding of their own marriage
partners’ spiritual strengths and commitment. Both the officer and their
spouse, who now recognizes that they have a role in the ministry, dramatically
change their approach and learn to feed and motivate the other; it can grow in
a way that transforms the relationships and consequently, their combined
ministry impact.
And is it not likely that for some that
such a dual serving relationship might move the non-officer to contemplate
officership?
FACTORS
GENERALLY AFFECTING A PASTOR’S SPOUSE
In sharing their spouse’s work,
developing friendships, meeting people, and finding fellowship ranked as the
number one joy among 24 percent of those surveyed. Following in close second,
with 23 percent of the respondents was, "seeing persons come to
Christ/soul winning."
Level
of educational attainment (across denominations)
Spouses generally, have shown a feeling
of inadequacy including intellectual inadequacy as the rule; 89 percent of the
spouses affirmed this need.
Perhaps by offering continuing education opportunities
for non-officer-spouse, the level of their self-confidence will be raised as it
also strengthens morale and the spouse’s level of effective support.
More than 60 percent experience feelings
of loneliness and isolation in their non-officer (ministry/support) role.
Having the needs of others take priority
over the needs of the family frustrates 58 percent of Pastor’s spouses.
68 percent are worried about finances and
resent having no opportunity to share actual needs with SA Administration. (Our
quarters are in very a run-down
condition. I would never consider my retired SA officer mother or children to
visit. My quarters, when a part of the pioneer team in ‘opening fire’ in
Russia, was only marginally worse- no furniture!
My officer spouse is the Divisional
Candidate Officer. We would love to invite prospective candidates and others to
our quarters but believe that condition of our quarters would turn some away
from eventual SA officership and instead socialize with them elsewhere)
72 percent are concerned about having
sufficient family time.
21 percent sometimes wish their
officer-spouse would leave the ministry.
The majority of non-officer spouses do
not know where to turn for counsel when confronted with a serious personal or
family problem. 74 percent of the spouses agreed that it is important for TSA
to provide a professional counselor who has no administrative ties to whom they
can turn. Why is such a support system provided only to the officer-spouse?
What
then will be the role of the non-officer spouse?
Some, along with me, consider ourselves
‘appointed’ to be in part- time unpaid ministry with the officer-spouse
determining how we should be involved in the appointment. (This subject has
proved to be controversial on many levels and requires further research)
The corps often assumes incorrectly what the
non-officers role ought to be. It would therefore be unrealistic to determine a
specific role within the appointment based on models where in the past both
spouses were SA officers. There is no one size fits all or any magic SA
formula.
(This is an issue that requires research
and consideration separate from the recruitment, selection and training)
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All these questions and many more fall
under the heading: Ecclesiology and the Army (the study of the church).
Although the word is rarely used in SA circles and no doubt unknown to most
Salvationists, it’s one we must acknowledge as we question what measure of
reform is necessary. One need only take a cursory look at the high percentage
of non-Salvationists who seek approval as the non-officer spouse under the SSO
provision.
With the alarming number of officers
resigning from active service each year we recognize both the immediate and
long-term needs of those willing to serve under this relatively new provision.
However, was sufficient thought and preparation given to the inherent
implications?
The army’s genius lies in great part in
its fundamental dependence on a victorious history; a tradition built on
immense trust in God’s word, the obedient seeking of the Holy Spirit’s leading,
and a fierce commitment and loyalty to SA leaders, often perhaps, blindly so.
However we need not go blindly forward.
In Shaw Clifton’s, Selected Writings,
Volume 2, p.19 he writes on what it takes to be a ‘thinking Salvationist’, and
there is wisdom here as it relates to the screening and training of the
non-officer spouse.
Clifton writes, ‘I do not think anyone
can rightly claim to be a thinking Salvationist without knowledge of Army
history.’ Should this not also, at least in part, be a part of every employee’s
portfolio of knowledge? And ought we not to require the non-officer spouse to
also participate in a briefing session or two? And encouraged to join the SSO
non-officer fellowship?
“Part of the Army’s God-given genius is
to move with the times. We were born out of a specific time and specific
culture in English history, but God has moved Salvationism on and outward
through many generation and into countless cultures ever since”. (Shaw
Clifton)
The army’s colourful and victorious
history is a wonder to many and one that continues to draw researchers,
believers and skeptics alike. Case studies are written and our history
disseminated to witness to how one trial was overcome only to become the
genesis for the next. That is until now!
When pressed to share details, fact and
figures, the ethics and values ascribed to by the non-officer spouse, there was
a tendency of certain SA leaders to become vague and even non-responsive. Most
organizations operating in a military fashion will have as a key phrase for
insisting on, or refusing commands; It’s policy! Those of us who deem ourselves
‘thinking Salvationists’, those with years of experience, find such responses
to our questions repugnant.
One possible solution is to create a team
ministry option for qualified SSO couples. Our history is replete with examples
in which it’s demonstrated that a couple can be more effective than a single
person in accomplishing the mission of the SA. Spouses who feel themselves an
integral part of the team are not as likely to be isolated, lonely, and
frustrated. Territories should seek ways to encourage and train for team
ministry.
Even more, the SSO couple present a model
to the SA community of what God intends; —a caring environment in which each
member loves, supports, and encourages the others on their journey to the
kingdom of heaven.
Dr.
Sven Ljungholm
Former SA Officer
USA, Sweden, Russia, Moldova, Ukraine