Monday, December 6, 2010

21 Things Pastors Need to Know About Porn

Eyes of IntegrityJust this morning, a book came across my desk,Eyes of Integrity: The Porn Pandemic and How It Affects You, and I devoured it in a matter of hours, not because it was an “easy read” but because it shares a compelling story that rarely gets talked about – what happens to people who consume or produce pornography, and how they can find hope and help.
It’s written by Craig Gross and Jason Harper, both a part of XXXChurch, a radical kind of rescue outreach into the porn industry and the porn problem as a whole. The book shares dozens of stories of real lives damaged by the power of pornography, as well as the divine rescues that often happen when people turn from porn to God for help.
You’ll read of young men and women trapped by an industry that treats them as merchandise and men and women hiding behind the immense shame of a secret addiction. The book should break your heart, for one reason or another. I found it eye-opening, and it inspired me to share some thoughts on what Pastors (and you, too) need to know about pornography.
  1. It’s sin. It’s lust. Lust is sin. It’s mental adultery.
  2. It’s everywhere. Half the men in your church are likely exposed to it every week, and some of the women too.
  3. It’s a ruthless slavedriver and traps people in shame and secrecy.
  4. NOT talking about it with your people does NOT help them.
  5. The porn industry is a dark and twisted place, filled with people with souls whom God deeply loves.
  6. People who act in pornographic films are people whom God loves.
  7. People who produce pornography are people whom God loves.
  8. It does NOT encourage more intimacy in marriage – on the contrary, it destroys it.
  9. It is NOT victimless. Broken marriages and shattered lives are all around us as evidence.
  10. The internet has exploded the number of porn addicts, offering the three deadly “A’s,” makingporn accessibleaffordable, and anonymous.
  11. Pornography is a drug. It triggers chemicals in the brain that create addictions. It offers a temporary high, followed by a crash into guilt and shame. And one kind of pornography is almost always a gateway into something worse.
  12. The younger you are when first exposed, the more susceptible you are to addiction as an adult.
  13. Pornography WILL cause you to treat people (especially women) like objects and not living souls.
  14. Pornography WILL harden your heart.
  15. There is hope.
  16. Consumers and producers of pornography can find forgiveness of sin in the blood of Jesus and be made righteous and pure by the saving power of God.
  17. Those trapped in pornography addictions can be forgiven of what they’ve entertained themselves with.
  18. Breaking the cycle is possible, but extremely difficult, as with any addiction.
  19. The cover-up is always worse than the crime.
  20. The cost of recovery is high, but the cost of not recovering is much higher.
Brandon A. Cox
Don’t be a story of tragedy – be a story of hope. If you have a problem with porn,nvolved in the industry in some way, turn to God and reach out for help. He knows where you are. He knows your pain. He knows your shame, and He longs to rescue you! Angels will cheer in heaven if you’ll just turn to Him by faith!
If you’ve failed again and feel God will not forgive you this time, you’re wrong. 1 John 1:9 is an irrevocable promise that “if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Try Him – He’ll prove Himself a forgiving and gracious God. But also, “flee youthful lusts” and “fight the good fight of faith.” “Take every thought captive” and “put on the whole armor of God.”

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

An interesting article. I fully agree that God loves all people, including the creators of porn, the porn stars, and the porn users and addicts. However, there is a lot in the article that I wince at.

The whole issue of pornography and sexual addiction is an EXTREMELY complex one. There are SOOOOOO many issues to deal with on SOOOO many levels.

There is a support group called 'Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous' (SLAA). They are a group similar to AA, but deal exclusively with people caught up in all sorts of sex and relationship addictions of various kinds. It is an international group - started in the USA, has it's largest membership in Australia, and is in a large number of countries around the world, including various on-line meetings. Its' membership is extremely varied with people from EVERY imaginable walk of life and occupation, including pastors of every denomination, politicians, actors, businesspersons, manual labourers, married, single, gay, straight - every kind of person you can imagine is represented. In the group, there are a large number of people who have problems with porn - either consuming or producing it in some way or both. For most of these people, to talk about God as discussed in terms of church or Christianity is in fact a trigger into the addiction. For most of these people, they need to get away from the church, re-define their concept of who and what God is before healing can commence. For many of these people, the church, and church-defined Christianity, is at the root of the problem for various reasons.

The point for saying this is that I don't believe the church to be the answer. God is, but it is very rare to find a church or congregation that has anything to do with God. Instead, church usually imposes restrictions and ideas that lead to addiction and psychologically unhealthy lives. Hence, there is an over-representation of the religious community in addiction, and in particular, in sex, love, and relationship addictions.

I say again... The whole issue of pornography and sexual addiction is an EXTREMELY complex one. There is no simple answer. Attempts at a simple answer will make it much worse.

There needs to be some very major changes within the church and its' theology before this trend will turn around.

A lot of the research in the article appears to come from a pre-judgemental perspective. Certain types of pornography can be used in marital aids.

The issue is not with sex itself, but with the problem of fantasy - knowing what's real and what's not. At that level, there is no difference between someone who has a problem with pornographic fantasies, and the person who watches romance movies and creates expectations that life should emulate the fantasy that's on screen - it is equally as damaging. I could go on, but you get the drift.

The issue is way to complex to go into in a single book, article, or response.

Just my thoughts.

Yours in Christ,
Graeme Randall
Former Australian East